Ever wonder why most of our thoughts are negative? Research shows that the average human is believed to have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day. According to some research, it seems that as many as 98 percent of our thoughts are repeats from the day before. It is also believed that around 80 percent of our thoughts are negative. It is no wonder that it is so easy for some of us to swim in a pool of negativity?
So why are our thoughts so negative? Our brains are wired by evolution to scan our environment looking for problems and things that could put us at risk and bring them to our attention as negative thoughts.
One way to shift negative thoughts to positive ones is to create a personal mood evaluation. First you need a reference point. Ask yourself when was there a time you felt the most positive and joyful. It could be anytime in your life. Give that a 10. Next ask yourself what number you would give yourself right now compared to that 10 feeling. If you gave yourself a number of 5 or below, which is the negative thought tipping point, then most probably your negative thoughts are having a negative affect on your wellbeing, emotional state, and overall spirit. If this is the case, then it is time to do some serious positive thought making.
The goal is to move up the scale past 5, the positive tipping point, and into the “positive zone.” Focus strictly on positive thoughts. Changing the focus of your thoughts can be challenging at first because many of us have a habit of focusing on thoughts that support our negative reality in the moment just as it is easy to focus on all the wonderful things in our life when it supports our positive reality in the moment. So what do you do when you are stuck in a negative reality moment or year and want to shift into the positive zone?
1) Awareness. Becoming aware of the bad thought circus in your head is one half of the battle.
2) Once you become aware of the negative thoughts change them to positive ones. This is where it becomes tricky. If you are on a negative thought spiral criticizing and finding everything wrong with everyone and everything, it can be hard to get off that thought train. You must find something to think about that is positive. It does not matter what it is as long as it is positive. Once you begin this exercise, you will find yourself very often going back into negative territory. Every time you catch yourself, gently bring your thoughts back to something positive. Moving into positive territory can be as easy as focusing on things you are grateful for. Remember to never beat yourself up or criticize yourself for focusing on the negative. Be compassionate with yourself for trying and gently bring your thoughts back to positive ones.
3) What if you can’t think of a single positive thing? When you are deep into the negative thought cycle this can happen. So here is where you incorporate emergency mantras. An emergency mantra goes like this: “I trust myself” or “I choose peace now” or “I am moving toward happiness, abundance and joy” or “This day brings me nothing but happiness.” You may not believe these mantras at first; however, while you are saying them the mind cannot engage in negative thoughts at the same time. Eventually your mind will begin to believe the positive mantras just as it believes your negative thoughts.
The goal is to keep tabs on your mood meter and to always strive to move it up the scale away from the negative tipping point by changing your focus to positive thoughts. If you need help, use an emergency mantra from above or create one of your own. Repeat it throughout the day when you find yourself caught up in negative thinking. The better you become at monitoring your thoughts and shifting them to positive thoughts the easier it is to stay in the “positive zone.”
Kelly Thiel is the owner and Homeopath at Modern Day Wellness in Orange County, CA, where a broad spectrum of healing and wellness modalities and methodologies are offered.